Social life when sober

by NattyFatty

Well I can confidently say I have never had more energy and zest for life.

But now I have fit girl problems. I have few people to share it with. My social circle consisted of a group of girls who I would smoke weed with during the week and get drunk with at the weekends. A few other drugs in between if I am to be honest.

There was endless gossip and giggles. Preparation and excitment before we hit the town. Pre drinks and more more make up. Facebook pics because the night obviously didn’t happen unless it was on facebook obviously.

I was bored of it. In a nightclub I didn’t really like not even pretending to have a good time dancing round handbags to music I didn’t like.

I don’t miss that life, there was a time I lived for Saturday to come round and spend my entire day getting nails/hair done. Spend my money on an outfit I’ll wear only once.

I have happy memories,  sad memories and some toe curling shameful memories.  I wouldn’t take any of it back and given the chance I would do the exact same.

Now I look forward to waking up fresh sunday and going for a run. some people aren’t compatible with the new me. But thats ok cause I genuinely love the new me and dont need approval from other people.

Since going sober in September I want my weekend to consist of things I have never done before and go to places I have never been.

People have left my life and I have grieved for those friendships. It has served a purpose by allowing space in my life for new people to come along.

I live in a country where everything revolves around alcohol. Going sober has been a character building exercise to say the least.  I no longer have my social lubricant when meeting new people.  It’s isolating at times but it’s given me a chance to really get to know the genuine authentic me.

To anyone going sober or experiencing that social circle shrink. Be patient everything you work on today is building for a better future tomorrow. If you can take yourself out of your comfort zone and keep pushing those boundaries,  I salute you!

May we be humble to know we are not better but wise enough to know we are different.